What does your customs say about bride price after divorce? In some cultures for a divorce to be complete then bride price paid must be returned. Otherwise it will be counted that you are still his wife hence can’t be married to someone else. So just find out what your culture says

If you don’t return the brideprice you are still his.If you happen to get married again,pay him back. for no woman can be paid for brideprice twice.Muacha Mila Ni mtumwa..The brideprice was not a sex compensation fee it’s tradition and it has it’s agreements.We all know why it’s paid. Sex is available everywhere at a price.So no one married for sex
The sex you had equals to soul ties

how about her salary for the chores she performed in that house? Coz it seems this guy wasn’t interested in a wife but a house help c*m sex slave. He placed deposit on her kama kuacha 10bob dukani arudishiwe akirudisha chupa ya soda. Anabebaje mwenzake?

Why are you troubling your mind?
Was the letter addressed to you?
Let your parents respond to the letter after all they are the addressees.
Unfortunately this is where many communities get it all wrong. Some things are never talked of until the worst happens.
During bridal negotiations such eventualities should feature in talks not just tabling demands.
I know of a man that paid dowry for a woman that never lived to get married. She got involved in a road accident and passed on. Do you know her family treated the whole issue as already married to the man branding him an inlaw inorder not to refund the dowry? Do you know they were willing to give out the late’s younger sister to this man to marry instead?
I am not a traditional or customary expert but in such a case, the parental team is better placed to give the way forward.

U did nothing in that family of his to demand that without respect …..?What if he will be found with importency n not u later?

Mwambie akupe tym ama umshow akuludishe ata kaa ataoa secont wife. I know a story of my neighbor mwenye alikaa Sana bila kupata mtoi untill akawa 38y saa jusi ndo amebarikiwa na mtoi na saa ako na wawili hope nguvu tu Kama Hana Mungu anakuja

Ladies please, don’t be emotional. Traditions obliges us to pay dowry for someone’s daughter. If the union is broken midway, compulsory compensation is due. I guess no time definition for this.

Am not sure which one you are referring to between brideprice and dowry, dowry is what you are entitled to from him and ata mkaachana he should pay you in full. Bride price is returned once you find another suitor na hiyo haifai kukusumbua, that’s for the folks and clansmen