He ended things with me because he believes that I am cheating on him, and now he is convinced that I will have sex at the party I attend tomorrow. Despite our mutual break-up over our age gap yesterday, he admitted today that he ended things because he believes I am “on the market” for other guys. We started as friends and became more in December, and I fell in love with him. However, he never reciprocated my feelings, and whenever I expressed my love for him, he would question me. He now expects me to have sex tomorrow, which makes me wonder if he thinks so little of me or if sex means nothing emotionally to him. I cried when he suggested I would have sex, but he sounded normal while comforting me, which made me feel like he never cared.
Although I still love him, I am happy to remain, friends, because our relationship has been toxic, and it hurts me to be with him. I used to imagine a future with him, but now I realize he is not the person I want to marry. He is lovely and cares about his cats and me, but his trust issues and paranoia from his past cheating experience make our relationship difficult. I do not want this dynamic around our future kids.
I believe we should break up and remain friends. Although I do not know if I will ever be able to love another person like him, our relationship was not healthy, and I cannot continue to hurt myself in the future. I cannot have sex without emotions, but he may view sex differently, highlighting our incompatibility.
May 4, 2023 |