Confession #928

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I have a younger brother who had finished high school and did some small courses but he didn’t get a job as he had wished,some years back he was in a college then he dropped coz he was following a girlfriend he had impregnated,then after dropping out they got married and he started doing casual jobs,after 1year the wife left him and got married to another person,then my brother went into drugs,he didn’t want to work but he depended on mum .We talked to him about going back to the college but he didn’t want,he doesnt even want to hear mentioning the word college,then after some years mum died and his situation got so bad he is always harsh and sees negativity in anything he is told .lhad told him to come to stay in town where ilive but he doesn’t want,he talks negative things about me and iam the one who paid sch fees for him and took him to driving school then later own paid 40k for him to train mechanics which he dropped out,I have been trying to ask him to come in town and find something to do but he becomes harsh and tells me that if iwant him to come I should give him 10k first for him to plan himself,then i rent him a hse differently ,coz he claims he doesnt want to stay with me coz people will laugh at him( he is 30yrs)he has become a laughing stock in our village,he doesn’t even want people to see him coz he spents the whole day out and comes very late at night,pliz how can I help him coz he is soo harsh and I can’t even advice him and iam the oldest ,even though I don’t have money but I need to rescue him.

July 11, 2020 |
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

A blood is thicker than water!.being your mother died, doesn’t mean that he cannot be corrected.. I advise you and for free; remove the poverty in your hose even if you are married or not but remember that they’re so many ways of killing arat . never care the age but remember the blood.
If he addicted;
1. Make a dialoque with the police in charge.
2. Be proud of who you are hata pple on the village wajue unapenda bro wako
3. Look for him even awife one day atanyenyekea
NB -nobody now’s what it will be tomorrow and remember yesterday was not taday and today will not be tomorrow.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

All I know that change starts from an individual,ata umlete town na hajahamua kubadilika utakuwa unafanya kazi bure.Nimeona wale wamepelekwa hadi rehab bado hawakubadilika.your brother should decide what he wants to do with his life Kwanza ndio asaidike.uamuzi ni yake sio yake.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

First you said he takes drugs so talk to him and take him to rehab for him to reform, introduce him to church also sometimes if we try to understand what pple are going thru we will help them,he is not himself and the village is not a good place for him to stay for now coz pole are laughing at him and not encouraging him,he needs to reform for him to realise he needs a job and to start taking care of himself,try that and don’t give up it worked for my cousin he is now happily married with kids and working altho it was a process and it took time

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Okay it’s actually simple your brother is human and human beings are social in nature ,,,, what I mean is that your brother can’t be walking alone ,,,,he should be having some friends and even if there no friends there is a friend ,,, this is the point ,,find out who is his friend and try to talk to the friend to convince him to follow what you want,,, because you are the only one who understands his problem ,,, kindly use his friends..and see be blessed ,,,

Lastly your brother can change when you approach God in prayers concerning what you have said pray for him he will change May God bless you.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Just leave Him alone,unamfurisha kichwa mwenyewe kwa kumuonyesha kumbembeleza 30 years Ni mtu mzima anafaa kumake his own decisions how come he’s stressing you na maisha Ni yake, Ni wakati Sasa wa kumweleza ukweli na akikataa muache atajirudi mwenyewe,atakutafuta mwenyewe wachana nae kabisaa, Kwanza yeye mwenyewe hakujali coz kama izo Pesa zote alikua akiacha shule na haoni any loss mhhhh

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Go home yourself,,,or use a close relative of yours whom he understand best .. above all put all before God ,,I see you are a caring sister God must answer your prayers…it has touched me

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Foremost he is not himself, he is under the control of drugs, for now pray, fast for that evil spirit Tobe out of him, then atajinua who he is, from there u can help with little cash for ka business

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

dada ata mm nlkua kama yy bt my mum na sam of the relative waliomba na kwenda kanisan kwa mfungo afta roll nlkua 2 n m2 alkua against me xo nakushauri nenda maombi na uamini na umwite mwende nyote bt ww nenda kwnza maombi na ufunge afta a wk call hm na uanglie kama kuna mabdliko YESU ANAOKOA

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Give much love don’t be harsh visit him severaly bu y him gifts be with him in his situation and more of it pray and believe he will change have seen somebody like that .inbox me for more information

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

He is right send him the 10k for him to organize himself again as u have stated I encourage you rent him a separate room juu at his age he needs his own privacy But send him kshs 5k first for u to know whether is ready to relocate!

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Just ask him what he wants , maybe coming to town is not part of his life plans ,get to understand him , talk him that broken marriage left him hurt & wounded deeply . Don’t talk about college bUt rather business ideas if he has any and tell him if he gets his life together one day he find a Lady who loves him sincerely and build a happy family

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

I really don’t know what is wrong with boy child same case with my young bro he is school dropout whenever my dad tells me to talk to him so that he can go to school he calls me so many bad names….ati juu nilisoma niko na nini oooh hataki kukaa penye niko namsomea.What I can tell you mtu ako 30 yrs he is no longer a kid mwachie life yake asikupee stress

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

People are quick to judge others I see , life is not a straight path it got curves and bends , no one is perfect , maybe college wasn’t his thing but wat I know for sure the guy has not healed over his past broken marriage, Thats y he find relief in doing drugs, but if talked to in a loving & compassionate manner with words of hope ,he can turn around his life ,let someone who he’s close to him do the talking not u. Otherwise if left on fate the guy might lose hope in life and commit suicide or become a drug addict finding himself in rehab or lunatic asylum

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Maybe he is going through denial after the breakup,,, you need to open up to him that he is no longer a kid and ought to be responsible for his actions, anyway I think he has grown up being pampered and that’s why he has come to a point of exploiting your kindness….Ahsante ya punda ni mateke

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

What I Know is that your brother has lose hope in life and love……but do these don’t be soft to him….even you can use police…..to make his life some how difficult in the village….hiyo inaeza fanya aje mjini….juu ya kukosa amani kijijini…..

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Clearly his depression is maximum hence the harsh and rude like charater
He is disappointed and unfortunately chose drugs
At 30 doubt there is anything more you can do because he has given up and such a person is more prone to suicide.
But keep on persuading him, try finding a job for him hadi siku atakubali….
But if you ever give him money atakunywa yote then akisober up anaregret alafu anakua more stressed.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

30yrs ni m2 mature enough to handle himself mbona afuatwe ka mtoi kma hataki umwache atajionea.mm natamani 2 kuenda kole nipate atleast m2 wa kunipeleka na yy hataki ok,

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:40

Give him that 10 k to rent the house and look for him anice lady who is ready to settle with him..then you can start supporting him from there..he is lonely and stressed

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