Confession #637
I have been living with this woman for 2 months now. she is 25 and I am 39. she’s pregnant with my child. we consider ourselves married. trouble is we never dated. she agreed to have my baby and I obliged permanency. we just discovered we share nothing in common. our backgrounds are very different. hers is a traditional lifestyle while am a laid back city bred man.case example her boy, a 2 yr old is fascinated by cars. he rarely saw them in their rural home. she can’t get my jokes, she don’t listen to my kind of songs, watch any movies I watch, lack any kind of curiousity in current affairs. yesterday she stunned me by guessing M7 is TZ president nor has she ever heard of Oprah. she isn’t dumb though, currently she’s pursuing a nursing course. we have come close to breaking on 5 occasions. yesterday she proposed we terminate the pregnancy. I gave an emphatic no. I told her she can deliver the baby and leave it with me i’ll take care of it. if it dies or lives that’s God’s will. I tried reasoning with her she eventually joined me in bed towards morning hours. we made love after some sleeping then we had another serious talk. this one was different because we agreed we might not work things and planned to separate after the child’s birth. she’s not going to give me the child. she told me she can’t give up her child after carrying her to term. my fear is she’ll mistreat my child because she told me yesterday she wanted to terminate it so there would be nothing to remind her of me.
May 24, 2020 |
So you want a woman born from typical traditional family to start dressing handkerchiefs as skirts in a few days? You want a child whose granddad taught to listen to traditional songs start listening to hiphop and all sorts of modern music? My friend relax, put yourself in her shoes and you will know how this world is sophisticated. I am a diploma holder, my wife does not know how to read and write but apart from her illiteracy she is a complete woman who makes me complete. If i was given another chance to marry then i would marry her again n again.
The sequence was friendship=marriage=sex if you reverse it from sex=friendship=marriage or from sex=marriage =friendship you are doomed you will pick anything in a dress some not even within your league Search for someone who can single handedly take your kids through homework
I don’t like watching war movies but my hubby does,I watch fantasy n horror but he doesn’t watch them,he listens to blues,locals n reggae,,I listens to Indians songs or the radio stay silent..does this mean we can’t cope we Only give eachother time to watch n listen to what one’s want at a time..so it’s good you make things work together we don’t meet people in common but try to toralate eachother’s behaviour by understanding them..n tht makes us learn eachother slowly by slowly
Heeeee ,man,at your age, you’re the one to teach her , don’t reason like that 2 yr old boy.u take your self to be a city man, but according to your statements,wee una ushamba. style up
Now what are you talking about. Is it marriage your need or a match in interests? Many serious ladies don’t like the so called Oprah,they want things to do with investment and future plans for the family. The girl has realised you are a waste to her
OK pregnancy has its challenges and ur expecting her to be excited by what excit you😲😲 impossible let her be …abt background she will a doubt by time ..instead of judging her , have the tendency of enlighting her with various thing which are important
Pole bro,but chenye unafaa kujua nikwamba,mwanamke akiwa na ball anaeza kukuambia anything anaweza kukuambia,but as for me a 25age bado ni mtoi so hufai kumblame,mwache afanye kila analoweza kufanya mpe tu time azae first then ataamua kama ataenda ama ataishe.So akiamua kuenda,utafute mtu mature from atleast 32 to 35 coz you are 39.Lakini bure,utashinda ukitafuta advice kwa watu kila mara.
For me this man hapindi huyu mwana dada juu 39 huwezi sema ni mwanamke wa kwanza so ako na mwanamke mwingine ndiyo maana anatafuta visababu, mimi najua ukidate mtu once utajua kama amechanuka ama laa hata penye mumepatana will tell hawa ndiyo wanaume wanaenda wakiharibia watoto wa wenyewe maisha baadae wanageuka iwish ninge mjua nimuulize one, two
You are as complicated as your story. Why did you get involved with her? What were your motives and expectations? If she is not your type, upgrade her to meet your expectations. As for the baby, it’s only the mother who can legally acquire the custody of the baby. Stop saying she’ll mistreat the kid. Unless she’s Bewitched. Even mad women take care of their children in their own way. You’ve got what you wanted. Don’t add salt to an injury
You loved this lady remember,now if her style of doing things is different from yours, God gave you a raw material,just mould her to what you need.dont belittle her,she is a villager yes but she must also have some uniqueness in her..get blind to her deeds n love her without measure n you will realize she is the best,
It seems u just wanted a woman to Sex and kill ur heartaces from ur other relationships that didnt work.at 39 u r too old to behave the way u r doing.without wasting her more just let her go.she wont surffer more than shes currently doing in ur hands.
What do you gain by knowing the famous Oprah Winfrey n kina Tyler perry and all kind of movies n actions. Not everyone is interested in watching the whole day n night. You are a city boy as u claim.mayb umegrowia getto n that rural gal amegrowia church with a lot of respect.respect that gal.at age of Forte Unafaa kua na mtoi form 3
It seems u just wanted a woman to Sex and kill ur heartaces from ur other relationships that didnt work.at 39 u r too old to behave the way u r doing.without wasting her more just let her go.she wont surffer more than shes currently doing in ur hands.
What do you gain by knowing the famous Oprah Winfrey n kina Tyler perry and all kind of movies n actions. Not everyone is interested in watching the whole day n night. You are a city boy as u claim.mayb umegrowia getto n that rural gal amegrowia church with a lot of respect.respect that gal.at age of Forte Unafaa kua na mtoi form 3
At ur age ur ok to understand her,mould her it depends if ur daddy nurtured on how aman should be wen his wife is pregnant bro.Let me tell ur child might be born with spirit of rejection coz ur both rejecting him/her,just pray both of u for mercy n pray for grace n favour upon the unborn baby.U might be blessed bt be humble n pray for ur marriage life n ur partner,thnx bro.