Confession #3971
I met this lady in 2013. She was a single mum of 1 girl. She told me that she wanted another child and she wishes to get one with me.
When I asked her why, she said it is because I am intelligent (I am a water engineer) and she knew my other children who were performing great in school. She told me she will not bother me with child support as she was also working as a nurse. All she wanted was a second baby.
We agreed and I made her pregnant. The baby, a boy was born in 2014. I saw the baby and that was it.
However, around 2020, she began bothering me with wanting financial support. I reminded her of our agreement but she told me COVID had made it difficult for her to feed her 2 children. Being that I did not want dramas, I opted to be sending her Kshs 5,000 monthly.
Got a time she said that was not enough and began demanding more. I told her that was never part of our agreement but she insisted. As if that is not enough, she took me to court and I was summoned.
Worse, she made my wife to know that I have a child with her and this has really caused stress in my marriage of almost 20 years now.
If I tell her to bring the child to me, she does not want but keeps making demands.
What do I do to her or how do I handle this, why do some women trap men?
May 4, 2023 |
In my community there is this proverb which elders keep reminding youths when making any deal with ladies,"Mûici na mûndû mûka akenaga akua",Ask for translation
Yaani a woman tells you to get her pregnant and you do it expecting no drama?? Wuehhhhhhhh.. Fear women. Even before I reached the dramatic part I already saw drama when she told you to get her pregnant. Clean up your mess… Just dont murder anyone.. For the woman, karma is on its way for her since her plan was to ruin your marriage. She wants you for herself.
Woiyeeeee ….comments here are usually harsh😥😥 …..I only imagine what this jamaa is going through.
We all make mistakes.
But whatever mistakes we make in life ,…..just be good but not nice.
You were very nice to that woman and she took is as a weakness ,….and consequently ruined your peace.
Solution:Try by all means to talk to your goat wife and make her try to understand just a little.
Look for a serious lawyer to argue your case for better terms of child support.
Cooperate with the child support thing without (only financially) ,and assume it's an adopted child you're helping.
I didn't see the intelligence the lady claims you have.
I won't advice you much but it is better to be responsible of your misconduct .