Confession #4044

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My boyfriend helped me find a job recently. I am set to start on 2nd June, my net pay will be 39,500.
I live with my parents and this man is now insisting I should relocate to the small town I’ll be working. If I was to commute from home it would cost me around 8k a month, but with current inflation I’d want to reasonably set aside 12k for commute.

My parents and I don’t have a stable income stream. We’re all hustling and pooling our funds to support the family. Commuting to the new job could actually help me save some money. It’s a tough decision for me because I want to be independent but also support my family financially.

My boyfriend is willing to take up the responsibility to provide house rent and this makes it feel like a ploy to cohabiting.What would happen if I said yes to his proposal,and things fall apart. Y’all I am not ready.
He threatens to ensure I don’t get started with work if I don’t listen to him. Isn’t this an enough red flag?I am 24, have known this guy for 9 months. I am tempted to run and ,continue living in survival mode as we’ve been doing.

May 21, 2023 |
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2023-05-21 10:28:47

Get the house, esp if he is paying rent. Do not furnish it. BUT KEEP COMMUTING. It will be say 3 months before he decides to "fire" you… by which time you will have saved about 85k to start a business near your parents home.
GET a house and start work. Let him pay rent. DO NOT FURNISH.. because chances are he won't continue paying. I know this type of vinyangarika!
ABEG what sort of boyfriends are these nowadays!?

Anonymous
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2023-05-21 10:28:32

Maen!

This stuff has started on the wrong footing!
No matter what, don't move out from home. Work smart and establish yourself at the new place.
That said,
I don't like your boyfriend!

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2023-05-21 10:28:13

Most of the people telling you not to go because he is a control freak are doing worse things off internet. Take the job and go,,, ensure your family knows who you are staying with and where you will be staying. If possible let them know the house door. Work and save some cash. If the relationship goes south you're always free to leave. On the job network with people, professionally. Take chances.

Anonymous
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2023-05-21 10:27:53

This is what the LORD says: "Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns away from the LORD. He will be like a bush in the wastelands; he will not see prosperity when it comes. He will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no one lives.

This verse always sobers a me

Anonymous
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2023-05-21 10:27:29

Why would someone help you get a job and have you make a decision that will not help you benefit from the job? And worse threaten you…

Life can be hard, but it’s going to be harder if you decide to cohabit just to keep your job.

Anonymous
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2023-05-21 10:27:12

This is a pregnant blackmail of the year!Ati if you doesn't relocate to his place he'll stop you from the job.This guy is manipulative,selfish using you as a pawn for his quest to relieve his loins.Any single altercation with him y'll get reminded how he saved you from poverty by finding you a job.In short these are the early signs of a controlling man in the future.Leave him like yesterday!

Anonymous
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2023-05-21 10:26:51

He is a control freak..dishing a favours and now he thinks he can control you ….This one wants your life to revolve around him by using his financial prowess..

This relationship will drive you to insanity

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