Confession #914

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Sema stress. Am married as a second wife,huyu mwanamme alinioa after wife alikua ameenda, vile aliskia.bwana ameoa she came back,by then nilikua na bol one month,Sasa nikaambia bwana sitakaa happy na huyo mke juu alikua na kelele Sana kwangu na matusi mingi bwana akanirentishia happy far away from huko kwao nmekua nikikaa tu,bwana anafanya job mbali juu alipewa transfer,Sasa yeye hukam end month na pia hua anaenda home just huyo wife Ako na watoto watatu,Sasa tulikua tunakaa tu poa juu I accepted to be a second wife juu sikua ready kurudi home kwa my mum who is a widow kumbother na shida zangu,Sasa nilijifungua 2 months ago na juu bwana mwenyewe alikua mbali I had to send the photos of our new born via WhatsApp,amekam kutuona after mtoi Ako two months only,nilipoona simu yake I didn’t see the photos plus tumekaa na yeye three days ndo akarudi job,in those three days nmenotice simu inaekwa flight mode nkimuuliza why anasema hataki kusubuliwana watu kazini only for me to realise aliambia wife ameachana na Mimi,na anaeka flight mode juu the wife anaezakol tukiwa nae na askie mtoi wangu akilia ajue tuko pamoja ilete shida,yeye ndo hunifanyia Kila kitu leave nyumba from rent to food and clothing,Aki sijawahifikiria mtoto wangu kukaa bill babake but am so stressed juu now I feel the man haniambii ukweli na I am just being wasted,cjui nivumilie mtoi akuekue mkubwa nikipata job nimtoke au nifanyaje,my baby is a girl na ninaona the earlier nitatoka the better kuliko niendelee kukaa Kisha nipate watoto wengine na yeye baadae wateseke bure in case atoweke juu hajaambia his first family kua tuko pamoja,I need advice.

July 8, 2020 |
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Men of today wako hivyo dia vumilia kababy kawe kakubwa then utavacat ,,u never know nini umewekewa hapo mbele na Mola,,endelea kuombea ur so called husband iliazichoke kukuzaidia ,,and if he was ment for u nobody will change it in Jesus name,

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Sorry sister. My advice for you, ask him if he loves n care for you he should buy apiece of land for you and build your home so that incase of anything you have ahome to Live with your kids. Ukiona anakuhepa Please leave. Us you plan hope umeeka fp

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Weeee…mguu niponyee the earlier the better. Haya tukienda ndani huyo ako na mke na ni Kama tu wewe umechukua mke wa wenyewe na hiyo ni dhambi. Pls move out muachie mke wake.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

As for me, I would advice you to walk out, before he impregnate you again,with one kid and for that matter a girl, you will get man to marry you…. don’t waste your life,if he loves you,he would have told the first wife,the time he will be bored with you,he will just drop you and maybe you will be with more than two kids if not two

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Do this my little sister,,,, first hv a peace of mind,ok! Don’t regrets it’s never too late to refresh up ur thots,,, keeps calm ..cul while struggling to catch up at ur own,,blv u cn stay safe ,,what he does u cn do it better so long as u’v take ur stand,,just hustle bt avoid easy intake ..ok

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Tulia and start saving for your daughter you never know what tomorrow holds.. Kwanza usitoke acha alee mtoi wake.. But remember kazi ya familiy planning sister.. Jipange polepole acha haraka.. Bitter goat wives kujeni Niko hapa

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Ame uliza mawaidha wengine mna mtusi surely mbona wengine mnajifanye you can make mistakes neither your kids won’t be perfect in future ,usi ongee kuhusu mtoto wa wenyewe if you have given birth to a daughter ,ongea wa wenywe wako atakuja kuongewa tu siku moja

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Ngojea Mtoto Awe Mkubwa Find Smthng To Do My Dia C Unajua Upbringing Ya Mtoi Pia Ni Expensive Wait Upate Cha Kufanya Mtoi Awe Mkubwa Then The Rest Zitafall Into Place My Dear

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Nohh…the man love you….na ataki kukuwacha that y he avoid …her wife….you take care of him na wtoi bb ake Kama ayuko…so he trust you….just be open. Na muongee naye…he will be open…to you

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Once biten twice shy…u can never build a home on another woman’s tears….I bet you the reason alikua ametoweka n u jus thought wewe kwisha kaangwa ilhali ye alichemshwa.
Pambana Nani..ulituuliza ulipojimake comfy huko…rùcamio rwa gwìcutha rúu..

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

And why are some women convinced with the ushit being cooked by married men,mwanaume tumakosa ndogondogo kwa nyumba anaruka nje kukudanganya vile ooh simtaki ataenda kwao,Mara oooh tuliwachana akaenda,Mara ooh hata sitaki kumkumbuka and you are there a whole woman seated or even slept on his chest listening to this s**t and abnormally believing the lies kumbe the man anataka tu kutuliza stress zikiisha yeye mwenyewe ndo humtafuta mkewe unabaki na malalamiko,eniwei wacha mambo mengi mwache ajukumike don’t mind about anaongea na mkewe Mara amefuta pics,Mara wife amecall those are pety issues knowing he had a wife from the word go

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

In my view inafaa uvumilie tu kiasi but be sure that izo vitu site sa uyo msee n za first wife Sasa labda tu uvumilie ulee mtoi tu uk8i8panga utakavyo endelesa maisha juu ata parents wa uyo jamaa hawakurecognise kaa wife so the early you plan to your life the beter

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

A secret affair is a non committal affair. That’s the plain truth no matter what your conscience testifies.
A man with three kids from the same woman is married to her whether or not they are living together. That aspect only suggests that they share some things in common especially the family factor.
You admit that you are the second wife and in reality mpango wa kando. You are in this side union for benefits and the attachment thereof which is the kid. That’s not a security either.
If this man isn’t proud enough or courageous enough to present you formally as his other wife then you better count yourself insecure in union.
My questions to you:
If the original wife was to step aside and leave the kids with the man, would you mind being a step mom to them and bring them up?
If the man lets you go find another man to marry, would you gladly leave and take that offer?
Why would you expect this man to go around moving with the photos of an infant? Did you see the photos of his first f

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Feelings zako ama emotions zako ndio zinakwambia utoke huko its not him. Give him a chance to raise the girl the man loves you cares for you. That’s why he spends time with you. The case of flight mode is OK you know well kuna another woman let her not worry you. Win your man, you know how to do it you have a big advantage.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

m2 wakwanza naeza laumu ni mume wako,juu Kama mke wakwanza alienda ukampenda ivo ivo,ukijuwa huyu mwanamke hakujuwa umuhimu wa kuolewa,mwanamke azunguke alafu baada cha kuona jamaa ametunzwa poa, anarudi hapo,siz tulia hakuna marefu yasio na ncha mungu atakutolea njia iliyo wa na akufute machozi simama wima dadangu.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Save the little u get… Save save save… The first two years of the baby is way very expensive…. Don’t tell him your plans… Just observe in silence… When he decides to disappear… Don’t look for him…. Just move to a new town, start a business…. Live simple but happy…. Don’t go bother your parents…. U r now a parent n u need to take responsibility of your situation… Usionyeshane madharau kwa mweziwe cause u r the one in the wrong… So don’t try to prove u were right but live right now for the sake of your daughter… She is a woman who will learn a lot from you… I bet you don’t want her to one day go through what u r going through now…. I pray and wish you the best….

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

You r the type of women wenye hufikiria ati wife akitoka kwake wewe urudi kwa hiyo hao,good lesson learnt,huyo mwanaume hatabadilika,hata wewe utatoka tu

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Mayb he puts his fon on flyt mode coz hataki kelele za huyo mwanamke. Lea mtoi wako as you weigh the situation. Na kuweka fon flytmode hata isikuumize, jipe shughuli. Lisilokuhusu lisikuume. If he takes good care of you, wacha mwenyewe apambane na huyo bibi mwingine, hiyo si yako.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Ngoja katoi kagrow kidogo ukisave tupesa ask him akufungulie kabiashara akikubali ujue umeweza coz this guy can leave u anytime. Meanwhile don’t try to sue him kama hauko stable kabisa hizo children’s office hazisaidiangi ulizia wamama uambiwe they hv been frustrated by those tu office twa watoto and the guy will have a reason to dump u before uJipange

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

This is the reason I say getting married to a man who separated from his wife is a total disaster …this is so obvious the man is hiding the fact that your there from his wife he doesn’t want to hurt his wife but again ladies let’s learn ukiolewa na mwanaume wife alienda stop rushing into giving birth give it time if a man loves you he cannot chase you because you aren’t pregnant …usiweke hopes uko kwa ndoa that man will drop you anytime ubaki alone

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Jifanye mchinga mtoi then uone kaa atachange, Kama atendelea kujificha na wewe then umuondokee juu ndoa huwa haifichiki, juu anything can happen, good or bad,on the other hand, ndoa Ni kuvumilia but if he’s open

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

May you suffer , until you die , ulikuwa unaharibu ndoa ya mwingine ,kwa nini huku tafuta ,mtu mwenye siyo married , you wanted to spoil some one marriage ,may you lot in h**l , stupid woman ,look for your own man, useless

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Kama he’s providing everything just , take it easy , then venye goat wife ana kelele ambia mzee akununulie mahali na title iwe kwa jina lako akujengee huko , usidhubutu kushika mimba ingine go for implant mtoi akishakuwa tafuta kazi upate hela zako n have your own investiments

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

It’s unfortunate that you have found yourself in such situation, sometimes it’s hard to predict the future, you may be doing everything right but still get bad results, you may be educated and still be poor!!! That’s the mystery of life.

Now, there is a kiswahili saying,,,,,”ushikwapo shikamana”. Before you started dating this man you knew he had a family, and even after he reconciled with his wife he still let you know, at that point you had no problem.

As I keep on saying, problems exist to be solved. Since you knew that this man is married, you have to bear with him that way coz that’s the bitter truth, and you knew it from the word go, however, at that point in time, you need to ask yourself, what must you do to protect your future?

Depending on his financial stability and your expertise, you can sit him down and design a plan through which you will be empowered financially. Remember you have his kid and that kid will need a lot of care in terms of upbringing, schooling among o

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Rudi kwenu he was using you kutoa stress move on mungu atakupa your own pls inbox for more advice.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Wue uyo hataki kuhurt Bibi yake meaning the wife ni wa maana kukushinda Bibi wa kwanza ndio Bibi a po let God guide you

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Save ukipata,ya kuanza business jitoe roho safi… Anza kuwithdraw love kutoka kwake polepole …. Ukiona hiyo love imeisha kanyaga kubwa kubwa

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Wacha kushugulika na simu yake Mami,kama anakusaidia kwa nn unajitafutia musoko wa mawazo lea mtoto ukifikiria kitu ya kufanya

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Lea mtoto akua kue,then be wise jipange ndo ukienda uanze hustle coz hapo hakuna future sio kwa.ubaya but next time hata Mme akikwambia wife tuliachana bla bla bla think twice ni hayo tu

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Thanks, my sister and I’m sorry about that,wacha nikuulize swali kabla nikusaidie mwanangu, Na nyinyi ni waislam sana sana mzee??

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Jees Kama anaprovide everything what else do you want…just jifanye mjinga for the tym being

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

I’m not talking ill na si matusi but this is what we call what goes around comes around…bwana ya mtu is a no go zone…first of all hujui walikosania nn na bibi yake akaenda….ona wamerudiana wee ndio unakaa mjinga hapo…juu life on the other side iko sawa akija kwako ni flight mode…anyway may God show you the right way

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

If weee unafeel huyuko happy…the early the better…na pia ukiona hakuna maisha hapa ondoka tuuuu…maybe hujulikani adi kwao!!

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

OK, Umesema anakusaidia,so mwambie akupeleke kwao ,kisha mwambie akuekee kazi kidogotu ya kulea mtoi ndio usimbue sana,manake kuzima simu akiwa kwako wakati mwingine ni Haki coz ,Labda anaona akipigiwa ukiwa uta fill mbaya,na mwanamke kwa mwanamke huwa na wivu na mwenzio ata kama nyote ni Halali.HV a NYC tym all

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

get something to do,do that y r financially independent,but if he is ready to help y,let him do so.wanaume wengi hv more than one wife.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

When you agree to be a second wife you need wisdom and lots of it 1st don’t expect too much and don’t put much pressure on your end cos your man need to balance between two families you also need to earn and learn to invest under your name you must be one step ahead and always think about your kids morrow.

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

This is where women bore me most.How can you get married with aman who is already having his life with his family?As young as you may look,what impressed you with this man, until you decided to become a second wife,as if men of your age have all died? You were supposed to seek advice, from a mature friend or a colleague,who has experience, before you get into this ugly relationship.Being a second choice, to a man is the most regrettable mistake you can ever commit.I suspect that you looked his deep pocket, and told your heart to relax, little did you know that you were his sidechic.I fail to understand what are you waiting for, you could have left like last week.what kind of a life will you live in a rental house, sincerely speaking.You have no job, you are a parasite to that man who doesn’t want to recognize you with his village family as a second wife, you can’t depend on your own.Men are wild animals, after using you, he has decided to settle with his wife.The best thing he should h

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Fellow ladies, let’s start using our brains and not hearts.. I had a married guy years back na akawa anataka kunioa. The condition was to never tell the first family that we are together. He was to buy me land na anijengee but wife asiwahi jua. Aaiii hiyo wana singegwesa. No man leaves their first wife no matter what!! Nlitembeza kiatu before ruining my life. Sai ningekuwa na mtoi mwenye singekuwa na security over.. Madam, unga isha mwagika, jipende na tembeza kiatu. He doesn’t value your baby, mtoto ni wa mama, start walking for your hapiness

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

It’s painful but thank God amekuonyesha mapema,act with wisdom dear hasira hasara,remember you will loose just let him continue providing for you na usimuonyeshe matharau remember you are second not first inauma but hope for the best make sure mtoi Aki grow kidogo tafuta job ama akufungulie biza DNT show the man you depend on him Sana and you are desperate and can’t live without him look for something to do and respect utarudi tuu pole pole .wacha aendelee kuweka flight mode ama free mode yeye ndo Aki guilty si wewe,he is man enough let him provide

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Kaa mtoi akue akue huku ukijipanga,pesa zenye anakupee jaribu ku save kidogo kidogo,mwambie akufungulie bizna ikishika jitoe kwa sababu hapo hakuna maisha,, maybe hata si bibi anafanya aweke fligmode ni sidechick mwingine

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

what l advice you as long as he performed his duty food rent and other wachana nae in this life men face many challenges that why sometimes their are not happy but they don’t tell you and they don’t want to be disturbed so wachana nae endelea na maisha yako wewe pia polepole jipange in case akikugeuka unaweza Fanya biashara ama shuguli yako kuhusiana na mood na simu and his behavior leave that assume and don’t asked jifanye una habari their are many issue disturbing man because he is the head of family if he don’t like or love you angekuacha kitambo so wacha stress kama unapata matumizi yako jifanya kama hakuna kitu inatendeka ukijipanga their no soft way in life it’s up and down

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

We lelewa mtoto akue mkubwa uku ukisaka hustle or the little anakuachia unasave kwa mpesa then ujitoe…then usizubae uewekwe ball ingine…one is enough…fanya mambo yako chini ya maji without letting him know then ujitoe one day…vumilia shiiit happens

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Hao present men are very irresponsible surely bado safari dada Anza kujipanga he didn’t marry you he was just lonely wanted where he can dump he’s heavy balls.Start kuhurstle as you take him away from your heart polee

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

Wachana na simu yake.. then ndunga family planning. Usiongeze mtoto mwingine…
Akikutumia pesa safe like one year ukitafuta business ideas…then ujipange.. ukiwa ready to move on. Mshw unataka aende akaone wazazi wako.. usikie vile atasema…

Anonymous
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2021-01-13 21:31:39

..eka strex kado kwanxa..kama anakuxaidia acha mtoto akuakue ukitafuta la kufanya yani job ama biashara.. jipange 2 polepole ndio kama utatoka usiende kutexeka,chexa kama ww..bt kuxaa eka pause mami..

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